Tuesday, November 21, 2023

Letter to My Parents

 It's Tuesday, time for Poetics in the dVerse Poets Pub! Punam has us taking up pen and paper to write an old fashioned letter [poem.]


Dearest Mother and Daddy, where do I begin? Perhaps with this postcard I found recently ~ dated 1939.

From the stories I've heard 'round many a dining room table, meals long past. Beginning with Mom and Pong who separated the two of you early on - attempting to thwart you from "becoming too serious." Mother [only 17] you were sent to Doniphan Missouri where your grandparents lived. Daddy, you [at 28] stayed stuck in Caseyville Illinois, pining away. 

Horror of Horrors!! An older man! Daddy, you sent postcards and telegrams begging Mother to come back. Mother, you returned within the month by train. Love prevailed, and Daddy, you were there to fetch her from Union Station in St. Louis. I can only imagine that sweet reunion. 

Precious Daddy, when you died on May 4th of 1958, I was 16 going on 17. You were turning 46 that autumn. It was sudden and it was shocking ~ life altering. I was too young to know about grief, could not have known how to process it. My sisters as well. Mother, you were left with three daughters to raise ~ and alone. I will never know how you managed it! Two teenage girls, the third fast approaching puberty. Good grief! Actually, Mother ~ I retract that last statement. As the years passed I learned about a strength and grace that people only dream of having. 

Daddy ~ you would be thrilled to know I inherited a bit of your amazing musical talent. Your flair for the theatrical. My ability to "fix" things like vacuums, toasters and sewing machines [when I put my mind to it.] I remember the story about how you "fashioned" a solar shower in the yard of your childhood home. A large tank, garden hose, shower head ~ letting the sun do its thing ~ using it after a day of hard work, a clean-up before entering the house. Dare I point out Daddy ~ no one in Caseyville could have fathomed [or fashioned] something quite like that! 

Dearest Mother ~ you raised us beautifully, fearlessly. You adored and supported 'Your Girls' every step of our lives. You sewed so many of our beautiful dresses, canned fruits and veggies, inspired us in so many, many ways ~ too numerous to list! So many stories! Your brother Billy teaching you to drive.  Daddy had been our "chauffeur-in-chief" ~ you never had to learn. I remember our "three on the tree" green '51 chevy ~ rolling backward down Famous Barr's circular parking garage! Who could forget how you managed to maneuver the car sideways in our narrow driveway? We were fortunate you had taken a "first ever job" shortly before Daddy died [needed the extra income as we were building our dream home] otherwise our future might not have been as rosy.  

I am old now, in my 80s, left with photos, stories, memories ~ regretting all the "I love you's" we left behind. The laughter, hugs, tears. How I never had the opportunity to know Daddy as an adult .. with children of my own. Grandchildren who he would have regaled with his stories and history, with a few musical number thrown in for good measure .. four sweet children, adored and spoiled ~ no doubt. 

Dear Parents, I must close this letter for now, I will write again .. there is much left to say. 


circling the sun
for all of eternity
blessings surround us




21 comments:

  1. Helen, I love the genuine affection and intimacy of your letter to your parents. I'm sorry you lost your dad so young but you were blessed to have your mom pick up the slack for both parents. Truly love your haiku. We're all recycled atoms,
    "circling the sun
    for all of eternity"
    <3

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  2. This is such a beautiful, moving tribute. So much love and affection here.

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  3. Dearest Helen,
    What a TRUE LOVE is being emitted from that post card and such a great follow up!
    You can feel very proud of your genes.
    Hugs,
    Mariette

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  4. Such a beautiful letter haibun of loving memories. Your mother sounds like a wonderfully strong person. Very moving tribute to your parents.

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  5. This is very moving, and it is wonderful to gt this glimpse of your early life. Beautifully done.

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  6. Lovely poem.

    Arcadia Maria

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  7. Thanks for the peek behind the curtain

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  8. Helen - thank you for sharing this letter to your parents and such a piece of your lovely self...

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  9. This is lovely and endearing.
    The outside shower with the sky seen, was a part of my growing up. That's just how it was in the area where i grew up

    Much🖤love

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  10. What a treasure that postcard is!! I love your letter. A solar shower? Genius indeed. You obviously have some of that talent. Happy Thanksgiving!!!

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  11. I love this, and so much to learn from going back through you life and write it in this form... it is your story as well as theirs.

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  12. A beautiful post Helen. Very sad you lost your daddy so young. You seem to have turned out well in spite of that happening. Your letter is very well written.

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  13. So much of them shine through this letter, shine through you, Helen. Your pride in them, I think, reflects their pride and joy in you. If ever there were a Thanksgiving letter, this is one. Thank you for sharing.

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  14. Helen, your letter full of affection and endearing details made me tear up. I think we should all write letters like these very often so that these precious memories don't slip by as we age. Thank you for sharing this beautiful glimpse into your incredible life.

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  15. And that is how handwritten letters used to be! Full of emotion, truth revealed, and written with honesty. Computers/texts etc just aren't the same. :[ Thank you for sharing your beautiful letter Helen.

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  16. Helen I feel privileged to be looking in on this conversation. Thank you for your honouring of the gifts your parents brought into the world, including you!

    btw This is Kathy from writinngpresence.com

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  17. Your words took me to another time and place. How poignant your dad passed away at an early age when the grandparents feared an older man. Life is strange with many twists along the way. Your mom was strong … she had to be … but her gift was grace. I can see it in you, too, the best of your mom and dad.

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  18. Helen, I enjoyed reading this, every word. My early life was similar, Dad had even made a sun heated shower also. When we got electricity in 1938 dad enclosed the back porch. In it was Mom's washing machine and Dad's bucket shower; he now filled it with warmed water from inside.
    I feel much of your pwn early life went into the letter.
    Jim of jimmiehov6.blogspot.com
    ..

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  19. Helen, I teared up at reading this beautiful letter of yours.

    Thank you.

    Much love,
    David
    SkepticsKaddish.com

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  20. That's so moving, Helen. I miss letters and postcards and the ability to use them as historic documents.

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I appreciate each of you and the comments you leave ~~ thanks so much.